Today at 6/5c, MTV is premiering a new dating show with an interesting, modern-dating concept: The show’s host, MTV2 Guy Code‘s Andrew Schulz, shows a single four potential daters by revealing their social media and web pics, videos, tweets, and updates—some embarrassing, some deal-breaking, and some endearing. Ultimately, the single can choose who they want to “hook up” with—but there’s a twist: The chosen dater then gets to see the single’s online dirt too and can take the date or go home with an alternate prize. I mean, we all—at least I’m willing to admit I do—Google/Facebook/Twitter creep on potential dates—so I find it pretty interesting that MTV’s now using that as an entire concept for a dating show. Andrew stopped by Glamour HQ last week to explain the show, what to expect, and some of his own dating advice. Check it out:
So after you set up the couples, do you follow up with them after the date?
Andrew Schulz: No, but they tweet us. I mean, the show’s The Hook Up—I’m just trying to hook you up. I’m just trying to find somebody that you like, and I give you all this information about them before you meet them. The whole idea is find out who you’re dating before you date them, which is how people date nowadays.
I thought it was interesting because it was a mix of seeing their online persona, but then they see them in person. I expected it to be a blind pick, but they do actually meet.
Andrew: They meet in the third act, which is kinda my favorite, because what we do is this deal-breaker round. The thing about guys is that we love you! I think there’s this idea with women that you could do one thing and we’ll be like, “Oh, I don’t like her now!” But I’ve been with my girlfriend 2 and half years. There’s nothing she could do except maybe have balls. So in this deal-breaker round, we compile all of these embarrassing qualities about people and then have them admit it to the girl.
How did you find out some of those things?
Andrew: We really go. We pry. But you’d be surprised—when people are on TV, they’re willing to divulge information. The pressure of TV gets to you.
Was the show your concept?
Andrew: No, MTV asked me to do it. But at the same time we had to influence and mold the show. So I played a part in the writing of it and putting together the show. From when we shot the pilot to now it has changed—and how we looked at these daters because we’re not trying to make everyone look horrible because then there’s nobody that’s fun to pick. We’re just trying to show you who they really are. And sometimes people do embarrassing stuff, but being vulnerable is attractive. Like, “Oh, he was caught naked in his room. I feel bad for him. He’s cute.”
If guys do goofy stuff, women just think, “Oh, he’s funny.”
Andrew: That happens all the time. What nobody likes is a guy who is too into himself. For example, the “selfie guy.” No girls like that.
How do you find all of the embarrassing pictures and statuses for the show?
Andrew: We’ve got a great team. I look for vulnerability. That’s what I want. It’s different for guys and girls. I think girls find it really vulnerable when they are doing like a goofy dance that you would only do in front of your friend. So if we get one of those, it’s great, because the second it comes on you see the girl’s face, it just turns like a cartoon. Flush red.
Yet guys probably think she’s cute.
Andrew: We love it. We love it. Obviously we’re shallow up front. What I would say about guys… having sex with a girl one time is all about what she looks like. Having sex with a girl again is about who she is. We don’t get a lot of credit for loving women just through the way we show love. We show love through sacrifice. We don’t show love through affection. My girl will be like, “Come here,” or like cute girly sh-t. I love it. We act annoyed, but it’s the best. I think that’s why anniversaries are so important for girls because it’s one day a year where we’re supposed to be affectionate and it’s OK for guys. We can write you a letter that has feelings. But our real way of showing love is through sacrifice. Me and my girl are watching a movie, and she’ll put her leg on my leg. I don’t want her leg there, but I know she’s comfortable.
And I’m guessing you’re watching a movie she picked?
Andrew: Exactly. I’ll sacrifice watching the movie if you’re happy. But the problem with sacrifice is I can’t go, “Hey baby, just so you know, I don’t want to be with you to watch this movie, but because I love you I’ll be with you.” Nobody speaks about this, but the silent treatment works because we love your love. It’s just we don’t show it the same way. That’s why maybe we need to shed light on the way that we show love, so when you see our leg and us hobbling away afterward you’ll be like, “He loves me. There is no blood in that foot.”
So how does the show work? Does it switch between guys and girls choosing a match?
Andrew: Yeah, I’d like to have more guy episodes choosing girls. Since we don’t show what the girls look like, there’s always a fascination, even from women, what the girls look like. Whereas with the guys, there isn’t as much at stake. How cute can we be? We hover at like, five to seven. That’s the mentality of women: “Is he not a hunchback?” But even the girls are watching to see if she’s cute. If you kick somebody out, you could be kicking out this beautiful girl.
So what usually turns the guys off?
Andrew: That is a great question because the assumption when we’re putting together is if she’s hot everything is OK. So what turns the guys off are high maintenance. Confidence they like, humor they like. If she’s into animals, anything that shows caring and affection. What they don’t like is self-obsessed. “Ah, she’s going to be high maintenance. Everything is a selfie. Everything is this.” But they don’t kick them off right away. They wait to see what they look like.
They do have to do pick someone to kick off after the first round. What was the trend?
Andrew: If there was something like, they hated animals and the girl loved animals. Or if she’s really into the outdoors and the guy’s like, “I’m allergic to grass,” or something.
Tune into MTV today at 6/5c to catch The Hook Up!
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